When I hit my teenage years I stated to notice the divisions in the cong.
Doing your best just isn't good enough if you aren't at least doing the average.
Even if you are a genuine dub, you can be treated like this and then they will still put it all on you if you withdraw because of the lack of genuine love. It's another way to control minds and behaviour.
However, if you are a newly interested person, congregation members will literally line up to spread your butt cheeks apart and stick their tongue in as far as they can, just signal their virtue to everyone else.